When I moved from Massachusetts to Coloradoโbecause the mountains were calling, of courseโthe hardest part was leaving my climbing community behind. These were my people, and I loved them, and still do. But as much as I knew I would miss my friends, I had faith Iโd be able to find new friends and climbing partners in the Front Range, and I was right. If youโre looking for new climbing partners, whether youโre moving or new to the sport, take heart: You donโt need to climb 5.12 to find climbing partners (I certainly donโt!), but it certainly helps if you bring something to the table, whether that be gratitude, gear, or beer. Here are four keys to finding and keeping awesome climbing partners, as well as a few red flags that you might not want someone on the other end of your rope. Hit Up the Gym First, you have to find these future friends youโll be buying a round for. To do that, you could head to your new gym and meet fellow climbers. Itโs especially easy if the gym has sessions for solo climbers to rope up together or other ways to share that youโre looking for a partner. You could also try to get some beta on the bouldering mats, where people often seem to be a little more open to conversation. Be Social on Social Media Social media ended up being my key to the climbing community here. In the process of moving, I joined several Facebook groups, both for climbers in the Denver area and for female climbers in general. Soon, my hatred of slab climbing led me to comment on a strangerโs post, and that woman responded by asking me if I wanted to join a climbing meetup later that week. That meetupโand the many more I have attended sinceโled me to the people I wanted on the other end of my rope. RELATED: How To Be A Better Adventure Partner Before I got to Colorado, I had no idea that Meetup.com was still a thing, but it is now my No. 1 recommendation for finding climbing partners. Mountain Project also has active forums, including a partner finder. And you can find Facebook groups for areas all over the country. (Also, for women and underrepresented genders, check out Alpenglow Collective.) Have Gratitude and a Positive Attitude Once youโve met a cool climber, how do you get them to rope up on the regular? Show them that youโre grateful for their time. If youโre stoked and thankful, people will be more likely to want to climb with you again, even if youโre brand new in town or have no gear. Of course it does help to contribute gear along with a catch, so if you have a rope and quickdraws, or a crashpad, bring them along. Youโll be definitely be appreciated. But a sunny attitude also goes a long way. RELATED: One Woman's Guide To Ski Town Tinder Pay It Forward The best way to get repeat partners is to thank your partner for introducing you to new crags, teaching you new skills, sharing their snacks, or providing a ride. Then when you feel ready, donโt forget to give these things back to other new or new-to-the-area climbers. Invite those who post on Facebook groups out with you, take people you meet at the gym out to the crag, and teach people the skills that someone once taught you. Red Flags to Watch Out For Although most climbers are wonderful and welcoming, you should be on the lookout for a few warning signs that your new belay buddy isnโt meant for a long-term belaytionship. Safety Issues Although youโll often hear the joke โsafety thirdโ around the crag, if you find out that your partner doesnโt take safety seriously, that is the biggest red flag. As you surely know from signing gym waivers and talking to your mom, climbing is inherently dangerous. However, safe climbers do everything possible to mitigate these risks. Everyone has their own risk tolerance, so you definitely want a partner who matches yoursโbut safety checks should always be standard for everyone. If you donโt feel safe with the person youโre climbing with, that is a deal breaker. ย Ego Hangups Getting the send is often about believing in yourself, but if your climbing partner has more than just healthy confidence, beware that their ego could cause problems. You might end up in a situation where youโre in over your head, which could be dangerous. Also, people with too big of an ego often believe theyโre always right, unwilling to admit that theyโre wrong or they made a mistake, which can lead to risky behavior. ย Poor Communication You should always be able to communicate with your partner, and if someone canโt share things with you and also listen to what you have to say, thatโs a bad sign. ย Now get out there, find some great partners, and crush it! Make the climbing community as welcoming as you want it to be, and youโll find that it truly is.
